Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Luke goes in for surgery



As I write this Luke is sleeping after a long morning at the hospital beginning at 7am. Luke was scheduled to have a hydocele repair and circumcision. Everything went well getting ready for surgery. Luke and I played with his Barney computer and watched cartoons. He was very quiet and cute as I signed my name over and over and repeated his name and birthday at least five times to different people. He watched as other carts lined up in the pre-surgery room with people of all ages prepped and ready to go. We talked to one nurse with two daughters from China who is getting ready to go get her new 2.5 year old son from China. We met a doctor who is the father of Sarah, a little girl at Luke's daycare. I had never met him, had only talked to the mother, but he recognized Luke and came over to introduce himself.
The surgery only took around 40 minutes. The doctor said that there was quite a bit of infection under his foreskin so I was glad we made the decision to have him circumcised at this time. The doctor told us what to expect and to bring him in to his office in 10 days to have the butterfly bandages removed from his tiny belly incision from the hydrocele repair.
They let us know that Luke had been returned to his room and as we walked down the hall I could hear a child crying. I hoped it was not him, but it was and he was crying very loudly. The nurses assured us that he was in no pain, that this was a typical responce from children coming out of anestigia. Luke cried a sad cry and I was able to hold him but it did not stop the crying. He kept looking at his arm all bandaged up with an IV and this seemed to distress him. The nurse came in and took the IV out and that seemed to quiet him down some. They also brought him a Popsicle and that also helped. Shortly after Luke decided enough was enough and he broke out into an angry tantrum. He was yelling very loud and kicking and obviously very mad. He kept repeating one phrase over and over and John is still trying to figure out what is was as he feels it was in Chinese. Evidently, according to our exchange student, Luke knows some pretty "bad" words in Chinese. I can only imagine what he was shouting. This went on for over an hour. They moved the other patient out of our room and closed out door. The nurse asked if Luke had gone to the bathroom and so I took him in. He sat on the potty and would not let me help him. Somehow, just sitting there all propped up by himself made him stop shouting. We were able to get his pjs back on and get the heck out of the hospital. We made it home by noon. Now I remember how I have felt after the many surgeries I have had and let me tell you, it was not the way that Luke appears to feel. He has been running around dancing and laughing. This kid is on codeine and can still stay awake and dance. He ate a small amount of food and drank some juice and finally crashed a little after 2. After the struggles we had in the hospital just restraining him to keep him from running out the door, I was tired too! He is choosing not to wear any pants or underwear at this point and walks kind of like an old man, all hunched forward. He quickly showed Ba Ba his new penis and he has studied it carefully. I'm sure the rest of the family is going to be just thrilled with his state of dress at the dinner table. The nurse warned me that kids react differently. She said some want the area completely covered and don't want anyone to touch them and others just want to let it all hang out. I guess Luke falls into the second category. The pictures are of Luke "before" surgery when he was still happy. I did not take any pictures of him in his state of rage. It was all John and I could do to both keep him restrained. While all this was going on, the man sitting with the patient in the next bed over came over to show us his picture of his FOUR adopted daughters from China. He had heard our conversation with the nurse and wanted to say hi. And to think we only have TWO kids from China.

Sunday, May 18, 2008

This week's photos


Sibling love

Luke's jam session

Luke has a disco moment

Future Elvis

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

No time for words, just a couple of photos!



This is Luke and Lily at Arts Fest. Luke really enjoyed the make shift drums. He is pretty good at keeping time.


This is Luke either going airborne or just coming down, the camera just never seems to catch the right moment. He loves the trampoline and it was one of the first words he could say in English!

Monday, May 5, 2008

Back to work

It was back to work full time for me today. Luke went to Carol's and Lily went to preschool. I'll have to admit it was kind of nice to be among the land of adults. I kind of missed the events of work, no two days are exactly alike in the land of restaurant inspections. I came back just in time to open a new sushi restaurant named, "Su Shi" at the mall.
On Saturday I heard Luke say his first complete sentence in English. It was nothing long and technical but it was a complete sentence. I think it was "where did Lily go?" while we were at a restaurant. It caught me off guard and then it hit me, that was English. Later he was walking around the house repeating, "shoozon, shoozon." I thought it was Chinese so I asked Yue Jia what he was saying as he was searching the floor. Then it hit me, he was saying "shoes on" and was looking for them in the process so he could go outside with Ba Ba. Once I showed him where his shoes were he was a happy camper.
I also witnessed a very sweet side of Luke this weekend. Lily has never been one to play with baby dolls much but she has a couple lying around. Luke found one and I saw him carrying it around and gazing lovingly at it's face. He was walking and rocking the baby and carried it upstairs to his bed and laid it down gently and kissed it's head several times and covered it up with his blanket. He may have observed this in the orphanage or perhaps his foster home had a baby as well, but I thought it was very sweet of him. I told Lily that this is how we build good future daddy's.
Lily's preschool let us know that they may have an opening for Luke as early as June 1 and I think that would be great.

Sunday, May 4, 2008

New Pictures!



We went and had our 4 year old pictures made. I think they turned out pretty well. Luke is very photogenic and does not have the fakey kind of smile. It is hard to catch Lily in a "natural" smile but I think the photographer did a good job. This will be our Mother's Day gifts for family.

Saturday, May 3, 2008

Another week flies by....






Another week has managed to zip by and it is already the month of May. Last weekend my sister Sue from Wichita Kansas came for a three day visit. She is better known as “crazy Aunt Sue” and lives up to her name in her crazy antics with the kids. Luke loved her instantly and didn’t play the shy guy part for more than a few minutes. We took the kids to the zoo and although it was a little brisk, we all had a good time. Miss Lily did seem more “emotional” should I politely say, while Sue was here. I think she was having a hard time sharing Aunt Sue and watching her kissing and hugging her little brother. She is used to having all of Sue’s attention, but this is good for her and Aunt Sue did explain that she has enough love in her heart for both her and Luke.
Monday Luke had a consultation with Dr. Ford, a pediatric doctor in town. Luke will be having surgery May 21 to remove the fluid that has built up in one testicle and to seal off that opening so it won’t happen again. The procedure only takes 30 minutes but they do have to completely sedate him so it will pretty much take up the entire day in the outpatient area. I am not expecting any problems. We have decided to have him circumcised while he is out so he will have a little surprise when he wakes up but hopefully it won’t be too painful.
Luke went to Carol’s house three half days this week. On Tuesday when I left him he had big tears running down his face. He was very happy to see me when I returned. Of course my plan was to get big projects done during this last week home but as usual, it didn’t turn out that way. I did manage to get the garage cleaned out and sort out items for a future garage sale, but the windows did not get washed. Oh well. There will be lots more sorting to do once Yue Jia leaves and Logan moves to the downstairs bedroom so that Luke can have his own room. My goal is to someday have all three kids sleeping in their own rooms and beds without ME! Ok, it may take awhile but that is the goal.
Tuesday night Luke was evaluated by the Parents as Teachers personnel to get a baseline. Linda Sun gratuitously was our interpreter. Luke would point to pictures of things they talked about and did stack blocks but would not utter one word. We were pretty sure this would happen. When Luke is in unfamiliar surroundings he shuts down all verbal communication. He still looks around very curious about what is happening and where he is, but just stays very quiet. The evaluator said you could tell by his facial expressions that he was thinking about what she was saying and his eyes searched the pictures looking for the right one. They recommended we come back in August to have him evaluated again to see if improvements have been made.
We also found out this week that there is a spot this fall for Luke at the Childhood Development Center on the campus of Missouri State University. This is the preschool Lily attends and we have been very happy with the program. When Luke and I pick up Miss Lily from school, Luke immediately wants to start playing and I think he will do well in the classroom with a structured setting. Yesterday we picked up Lily and her group was playing outside. Luke ran right past Lily and out to the large play yard and climbed up the bars to get to the slide. He did not even look back for my help. (What a difference) I let him play with Lily and friends for about 10 minutes and he pretty much imitated everything Lily did right down to the hand jesters. At times she is flattered by this and at times it just annoys the heck out of her.
Yesterday Luke started the round of shots he must endure to get up to speed for pre-school and later kindergarten. Poor baby had three shots and he did cry but it was short lived as I handed him a sucker. He also gained 2.5# in the past two weeks which did not surprise me at all, that boy can eat! He is a healthy eater too and eats a wide variety of foods. Wish I could say the same about Miss Lily. She has gotten picky about her food and does not eat much at one time. I would say she is more of a grazer so I keep lots of fruit and cheese sticks and yogurt available for her.
An interesting development in language occurred this past week. For three days Luke’s main word was “No” and he used this word for everything and varied the pitch and tone. Sometimes it was a long drawn-out Nooooooooo that went up and down, and sometimes it was a short NO! My theory is that in some way he felt like he was speaking our language and he was trying out the musical sounds of it. Yesterday he brought me a book and said “book” and he said “airplane” and pointed to the airplane on his shirt and made hand gestures to show a plane flying in the sky. He can say all of our names and “trampoline” and “sandbox” on his own and imitates the words he hears. I play kindermusic CDs in the car at all times and sing along and yesterday was the first time I caught him singing along as well. It made me smile. I think he is progressing well and Lily has been a big help. He is still my happy go lucky kid, wakes up with a big smile on his face and goes to bed without a whimper. He does like to get in tug of wars with Lily over a toy and he hangs on for all he is worth. Lily can scream at the top of her lungs and it does not affect him in any way. I have started penalizing Lily for her screaming. She gets 5 minutes off her bedtime for each incident. Yesterday she lost 15 minutes. I’m trying to get her to handle conflict resolution in a different way although I do know some adults who act in the same way!
John left yesterday morning at 2am to drive to North Carolina. His Mom is making the move up to the mountain house for the summer and John went over to help his sister Kim get her settled in. John will then bring Kim back to Springfield. It means I am on my own with the two kids. So far, things have gone well, only two more days to go. There is a big street festival we are going to this morning. Thank goodness I have the big red wagon that seats two. (Thanks Aunt Kim for that!)
Well, the kids should be waking up soon so I better go enjoy another cup of coffee before the day begins.